The Vactor Effect
Vactor
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Have you seen a Vactor today?

You don’t know what a Vactor is? Well, once upon a time I didn’t either. When my son was two and heavily interested in such things, we were reading an alphabet book that was about construction equipment and we came to “V is for Vactor.” Huh? I had never heard of a Vactor and was sure I’d never seen one.

But I was wrong.
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Today's car conversation -
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Ian: Wait, so the people who want the amendment call themselves "Minnesotans for Marriage?" [We've covered this before but he must have forgotten]
Me: Yes
Ian: But...but...they are against marriage.
Me: Yes
Ian: But...but...Can they lie like that?
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Bath time
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Ian finished his bath and I was helping him dry off and hanging out with him while he got his pajamas on. He suddenly went from talkative and jovial to quiet and serious and I could tell he was thinking something big. I asked what he was thinking about and at first he didn't answer, but a moment later -

Ian: I just don't get why it's happening. It really shouldn't even be discussed.

Though his comments were out of the blue, I thought I knew what "it" was. Still -
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November 7th
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I keep thinking about November 7th. I imagine going into my son’s room that morning and telling him the news. I visualize it both ways, with good news and bad, and envision what that morning might be like for him. Coping with the anti-marriage amendment as an adult has been heartbreaking, but guiding my child through this experience has been incredibly challenging.
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To the woman who harassed my child
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To the woman who harassed my child -

While I’m glad I decided not to respond to your behavior then, I find as I think about the incident, there are things I wish you knew, and things I wish I could ask you.
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Never Again
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I don’t sensor books. At least I haven’t yet. I generally feel that if Ian finds it at the library and wants to read it, we will read it, and certainly he can look at it himself. There is probably a book out there that would make me re-think this approach, but in his 7 years we haven’t encountered one yet.

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9/11 memories
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Arriving in my classroom I turned on NPR as I started setting up, as was my habit. I was early as usual and not many people were around. I heard them talking about a plane hitting the WTC and walked down to the office. My boss was there and I asked her if she had heard about this, if she knew anything. She knew no more than I did and was also listening to the radio. As we were talking they announced that the second plane hit. I said “I have to call my sister.” Read more...Collapse )

Pride Reflections 2009
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I wrote this just after last year's Pride.
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Predictably, I began to cry. For the fifth year in a row, the years that I have marched in the Pride Parade with my wife and son, the tears started flowing as we turned onto Hennepin Avenue, moving from the staging area to the parade route, and first seeing and hearing the crowd lining the street.
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3-year-old Ian Stories
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I thought I'd post a few of my favorite Ian stories. Here's a few from when he was 3.


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The names have been removed to protect the innocent.

On the way home from school in the car:

Ian:  ----- and me were doing guns.
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Too Funny
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I've been chuckling about this conversation all day-

Ian: We are not allowed to burp at school.
Me: Well, yes, it's generally not polite to burp in public.
Ian: Well, it's a PRIVATE school.

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